Jack Haines is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) specializing in working with LGBTQ+ individuals and couples, relationship concerns, and major life transitions. His warm, collaborative approach is grounded in the belief that meaningful change begins with understanding ourselves—not judging ourselves. Jack focuses particularly on out-of-control sexual behaviors, sexual addiction, and the unique dynamics of male-to-male relationships, helping clients navigate the complexities of intimacy and fidelity within their sexual culture.

Specializations & Expertise

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• Out-of-Control Sexual Behaviors & Sexual Addiction: Jack specializes in supporting clients in addressing compulsive sexual behaviors that can disrupt personal and relational integrity. He works to help individuals understand the underlying emotional and psychological factors driving these behaviors, fostering accountability and healthier patterns.

• Betrayal Trauma in Same-Sex Relationships: Guiding individuals and couples through the aftermath of betrayal, particularly in same-sex relationships where trust dynamics can be uniquely challenging. Jack helps clients process the emotional fallout and rebuild trust and connection in their partnerships.

• Male-to-Male Sexual Dynamics & Culture: Understanding the specific pressures and cultural dynamics that influence male-to-male relationships, Jack provides a supportive space to explore identity, intimacy, and the complexities of attraction and connection within this community.

• Couples & Relationship Therapy: Helping couples strengthen their connection, communication, and understanding, particularly in the context of recurring conflict, emotional disconnection, and infidelity.

• Life Transitions: Assisting clients in navigating significant changes in relationships, careers, and personal identity, especially during times of uncertainty.

• Anxiety & Depression: Collaborating with clients to understand the underlying beliefs and emotional patterns associated with anxiety and depression, while developing practical strategies for meaningful change.

• Sex-Positive & Relationship-Diverse Care: Welcoming clients from various relationship structures, including consensual non-monogamy and polyamory, while providing kink-aware and sex-positive therapy.

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Therapeutic Approach

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Jack believes that lasting change comes from combining insight with practical action. His integrative approach draws from a variety of modalities and emphasizes:

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• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): Helping individuals and couples recognize the emotional patterns underlying conflict, strengthening attachment and creating greater safety in relationships.

• Mindfulness-Based Therapy: Encouraging clients to notice thoughts, feelings, and reactions with greater awareness and less automatic judgment.

• Family Systems & IFS-Informed Work: Exploring the different parts of ourselves and the family and relationship systems that shape our responses to others.

• Gottman Method: Utilizing evidence-informed tools to strengthen friendship, communication, conflict management, and emotional connection between partners.

• Psychodynamic & Strength-Based Approaches: Understanding how earlier experiences influence present-day relationships while recognizing and building upon the strengths clients already possess.

• Collaborative Exploration: Clients bring invaluable knowledge about their lives; Jack provides clinical expertise and tools to help make sense of what is happening and what might change.

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Identifying beliefs and patterns that influence emotions and behavior, and developing practical strategies for changing those that are no longer helpful.

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Jack's therapy is about becoming curious about difficult patterns, understanding their origins, and deciding whether there is a healthier or more satisfying way forward.

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LGBTQ+ Affirming Care

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LGBTQ+ affirming therapy is central to Jack’s practice. He understands that sexual orientation and gender identity are only parts of a person's life. Whether clients come to therapy to explore identity or sexuality, or to address relationship issues, Jack aims to provide an environment where they do not have to explain or defend who they are. His goal is to create a therapeutic space that honors diverse relationship structures, including consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and kink.​

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Education & Credentials​

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• Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT): Licensed in New York State.

• Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology: Antioch University Los Angeles.

• Beck Institute CBT Certified Clinician (BICBT-CC).

• Emotionally Focused Therapy: Certification Candidate.

• 10 Years in Practice: Additional training in Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems, mindfulness, family systems, psychodynamic, narrative, person-centered, and strength-based approaches.

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Why Work with Jack?

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Jack creates a space where clients can examine difficult patterns without reducing themselves to those patterns. His style combines warmth and curiosity with evidence-based treatment and practical strategies for change. For couples, this means looking beneath recurring arguments to understand the emotional needs driving them. For individuals, it may involve understanding why certain beliefs or behaviors keep repeating—and learning how to respond differently. Jack's goal is to help clients understand themselves more deeply so they can make deliberate choices about their relationships, their lives, and the person they want to be.

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Begin Your Journey

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Jack provides therapy for:

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• LGBTQ+ individuals and couples.

• Individuals navigating sex addiction, betrayal trauma, and emotional challenges in male-to-male relationships.

• Couples experiencing conflict, disconnection, infidelity, or changes in their relationship.

• Clients exploring identity, sexuality, intimacy, or relationship patterns.

• Polyamorous, consensually non-monogamous, and kink-identified clients.

• Individuals who want to better understand and change longstanding emotional or behavioral patterns.

Jack offers a brief consultation as an opportunity to discuss what brings you to therapy, what you hope to change, and whether working together feels like the right fit.

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Key Highlights: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Beck Institute CBT Certified Clinician, Emotionally Focused Therapy certification candidate, LGBTQ+ specialist in sex addiction and betrayal trauma, relationship-focused therapy, mindfulness and strength-based care.

Interested in Working with Jack?