Therepeutic Style

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Rob employs an informal, down-to-earth approach to therapy, fostering a collaborative environment where clients feel comfortable "naming the elephant" in their lives. He aims to drill down to the core of issues, helping individuals uncover how past patterns repeat in the present. With empathy, care, and respect, Rob passionately challenges stuck points, outdated beliefs, and old habits. He values the healing properties of laughter and is never afraid to incorporate humor when appropriate.

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Areas of Focus

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• Betrayal Trauma & Infidelity: Rob works with individuals and couples navigating the complex emotions surrounding infidelity and betrayal. He recognizes the inherent trauma in the rupture of personal intimacy and helps clients process layers of hurt, anger, resentment, and shame, facilitating healing and rebuilding trust.

• Attachment Wounds & Compulsive Behaviors: Understanding the impact of trauma, neglect, and attachment wounds, Rob helps clients identify “life rafts”—compulsive or addictive behaviors developed to navigate suffering. He guides clients in recognizing how these behaviors, while once functional, can become detrimental, leading to ongoing struggles and emotional pain.

• Compulsive Partner Seeking & Red Flags: Many individuals experience a deep-seated need for romantic attachment, often overlooking significant red flags. Rob’s work focuses on the etiology of this attachment need, empowering clients to avoid being hijacked by it and fostering healthier relational patterns.

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Education & Clinical Training

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• Bachelor of Fine Arts: University of Connecticut (1998)

• Master of Social Work: University of Southern Maine (2011)

• Clinical Training: Rob has trained in various therapeutic modalities, including:

  • EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)

  • IFS (Internal Family Systems)

  • CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)

  • DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy)

  • Polyvagal Theory

  • ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention)

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Philosophy on Intimacy

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Rob is thrilled to be part of the Center for Intimacy Recovery, where he believes that true intimacy lies at the heart of addressing the suffering many bring to psychotherapy. While intimacy is often viewed in romantic or sexual contexts, Rob emphasizes that it encompasses connection, deep knowing, vulnerability, and safety. He helps clients understand that a lack of intimacy in their lives—whether with partners, family, friends, or even themselves—can hinder self-acceptance and the ability to forge resilient, trust-based relationships. Navigating differences and engaging in collaborative communication are essential for relational repairs and personal growth.

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Why Work with Rob?​

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​Rob believes that the curative factor in psychotherapy is rooted in the therapeutic relationship. He approaches each client with positive regard, avoiding judgment and viewing them as partners in the therapeutic process. Together, they work to recognize and mitigate distressing emotional states, problematic thought structures, and ineffective communication styles, creating a pathway toward healing and growth.​